When The Rainbow Is No Longer Just A Promise

One morning, a few weeks ago, whilst sitting in traffic, hoping to make it in time work as well as drop the children off at school in good time, my daughter squealed in excitement because she had seen a rainbow. Her excitement was contagious and somehow, a conversation developed from seeing this rainbow. It went like this:

Fi: Mummy, its a rainbow

Me: Yes it is

Fi: Do you know how a rainbow is formed?

Me: (sensing a mad-science-club-show off about to start, I let her… ) No, how is one formed, dear?

Fi: Mummyyyyy (read: mummy don’t you know anything?) Rainbows are formed after the rain has come down and the sun shines. the sun and the rain then combine to form the beautiful colours. (she then burst into Barney’s Rainbow Song, to which I roll my eyes and join in).

Me: Gosh, I wish this traffic would just move joh

Fi: (Still on the matter) Mummy, so you don’t know anything about rainbows. Ha! Mummyyyy …(read: Mummy REALLY  doesn’t know anything)

Me: Of course, I know about rainbows. Okay let me ask you one rainbow question. (payback time) What is the significance of a rainbow?

Fi: Sig-ni….

Me: Do you know why rainbows were made by God?

Fi: Hmmm…No

Me: Rainbows were sent by God as a promise that he would never ever wipe the world with a flood. Referring her back to the Bible Stories which I grew up on and which I still believe in so strongly.

Fi: Really? Why did he have to make this Promise?

So, we went into a mini Bible Session and I told her the Noah Story and all the lessons that went with it. She quite enjoyed the stories and from the interaction and I was happy when I realised she understood it.

Recently, I have begun to wonder if as a parent, I have done the right thing. Have I encouraged my child to live in a bubble, albeit a Bible induced one or have I dodged from preparing her for the realities of a life that she is sure to face? The reason for this thought process is that the rainbow which used to mean only one thing – a symbol of God’s promise to the world now has other meanings. The rainbow is also the symbol of the LGBT – the Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual and Transgender Community.

To be fair, this flag is nothing new, it predates myself and my daughter. Originally designed in 1978 by Gilbert Baker, an artist in San Francisco, the flag comprises of various colours, each having its own symbolism. However, at no time did this flag have a greater importance than a few weeks ago when the White House  was lit up in those colours to celebrate America’s Supreme Court’s Ruling in favour of Same Sex Marriages.

As we all know the world watches America and its ideologies, and as I often say if America sneezes, the rest of the world would catch a cold. So, do I think this would catch on and be copied by other nations? Yes. In fact, Mozambique has become the first African country to legalise same sex unions in Africa. This was done only after that of the United States. Copycat? I really do not know, you be the judge.

Do I think this would catch on in Nigeria, where I live at the moment? Truthfully, I’m not so sure. I’m not sure because I am aware that in 2013, 92% of Nigerians supported theAnti-Same Sex Marriage Prohibition Act, but as at last Tuesday, that figure had dropped to 87%. Some would imagine that it isn’t a huge population in favour of them or that the difference is marginal but just do the maths – that is 13% of 170 million people. It gets more interesting when you recall that Google once reported that Nigeria has the second highest number of users who search for gay porn worldwide. So, to be realistic, there is a disconnect between what fascinates us behind closed doors and what we fill in our opinion polls. A disconnect which we are not paying attention to.

Beyond the disconnect however, is the realisation that many people quite honestly do not care – with good reason too. Living here is hard enough without having to worry about another person’s sexual orientation, however, would children understand that a lesson in reality was omitted because mummy and daddy had a hard day at work? In addition to this, I do know that here, indifference often precedes acceptance. After all, I just saw a blackberry update that said “I fully support any kind of marriage, as long as it does not involve me”. As they say, na from clap dance dey take start.

Perhaps I would not be so worried about this growing phenomena if the movement for all things different (as I choose to call them) were as understanding of my views as they want me to be of theirs. For me, it is a foreign concept, one that I cannot understand and therefore find very hard to teach to my child. Please do not take away my right to say that I do not get it or that it does not feel right to me.

It seems that now, more than ever we are fighting a war against ‘normalcy’. Yes, in today’s world normal has to be in inverted commas. This is because its limits have been pushed so far that there almost isn’t a normal anymore. After all, these days the contest is more focused on who defines normal? This has overridden the importance of the concept of normalcy itself. The keen competition between people of all orientations to become legally accepted has put our world in a very fragile place. So, should we bother with our religious leanings or just teach our children at an early age to read, understand and accept the Constitutions without sparing a thought for a Superior Being?

Would we one day not also celebrate pedophilia? I hear they have also begun to advance their cause to be seen as a sexual orientation of choice in America too, and pregnant men – yes, a hashtag #Transpregnancy trended on Friday where trangenders are advocating that though they have decided on being men, it is okay for them to carry babies in their wombs. One day, at this rate, I would have to explain to my kids why their father should not carry a pregnancy too. Now, that thought is scary.

So, what story do we tell our children in these rapidly changing times? How do you as a parent distinguish between the rapidly blurring lines? Do you educate them earlier on and risk taking their innocence away or save it for a little later when it might be too late or perhaps we should all tow the line of indifference and see what side the coin falls onto. Are you going to be right to teach your children about morality in a world that frowns at it? After all at the end of the day, as a parent, you are preparing your child for a real world, these little butterflies should not be shielded in the cocoons forever, they should be allowed to fly.

So, how do you teach them to fly? I kid you not when I say I am confused because I cannot feign indifference, I want to be true to my story, my background and my understanding. However, it is a big, big world out there. Today, Madam TNV is officially confused.

Have you also had similar concerns, have you had to deal with the questions?  How did this news of the legalisation of same sex unions affect you? Were you indifferent or worried? How do we cope in these times when gay does not only mean happy and the rainbow is not just a promise? What do you think our next move should be because believe it or not, the other child counts. I’ve had my say, yes, it is confused but I would love to hear your views so, over to you, the verdict is yours…

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  1. The end times are here. Even though I think every body should do as they please, we need to embrace prayers

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  2. it is sad to see what the world is turning to but the word has never change just because the world is changing no!!! GOD's word and deeds are forever true heaven aNd earth will pass away but his word stand forever so teach your child in the way of the lord and when he or she grows up they will never depart from it. and mind you more of it are still coming they are the sign of the end GOD bless you and the admin of this page JESUS is coming soon

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  3. Hmm, what an insightful angle you looked at this from...very insightful. I don't have children yet though I aspire to join the club asap therefore I might not be completely appreciative of what goes through your mind when you look at them while trying to decide on the best answer for their one-million-and-one questions. However, I learnt a long time ago while still very young that no matter what one says about a particular thing, the fact still remains about the thing. Eg, the rainbow is a scientific marvel that pleasures the sight, the rainbow is a promise from God, the rainbow gave idea about our primary colours, etc. The fact, which has been tested and found to be true will remain regardless of our religion or artistic orientations! Now that brings us to our world today...times are changing. Children are growing so fast, technology is something else, all facets of life are moving along on speed. That's our reality.

    I can not, for the life of me, imagine being a man or being with a woman as a couple. Taaa! But, that's me. I believe in dad & mom in the traditional way. Some people don't and they've made very good cases for themselves. In fact, most of these people started being confused as kids regarding their sexes and sexualities. I will do everything to breed children who know and appreciate their sexes even if it means explaining the embarrassing meaning of homosexuality and transgender. God forbid my son every get confused about his gender or unhappy about himself. If our next door neighbours turns out to be a family of same sex marriage, again no child of mine will be ignorant enough to castigate them. To every man his own.

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    • Well said... you sound like you will rather get it out in the open and be done with it. I see the benefits of your decision. Thanks for your contribution, Bimbo

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  4. Hmm, God truly help us in this generation. Sick sick world the other day it was #transpregnacy. Dem all dey craze. Fela don talk am finish #nacrazeworld be this

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  5. Such a crazy world we live in....sincerely! Was indifferent to the madness in America until Mozambique decided to copy copy...now I am afraid it will gradually creep into most countries...nway! I believe most parents should create time to teach their kids the ways of the Lord and systematically make them see that the world they are living in has gone gaga...

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  6. It's definitely a crazy world we live in and in all day craziness we have 2 find d true way n show others b it kids brodas sisters friends etc being indifferent means one is condoning d act. Now if u are against it u shld b able 2 speak up n out against it no matter d backlash u myt receive. America has lost her honour cos dia family values have derailed n bin pushed 2 d background all in d name of modernisation so we shld learn from dia mistakes n guard against making same. I pray n hope for d strength 2 not join dis current bandwagon directly or indirectly.

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  7. Wonderful topic for TNV to bring up. It's a really frightening situation and I fear for the next generation. However, as parents our stand must not be a confusing or passive one but a conscious and decisive one. If not, we could get swept away by this unholy tidal wave. Funny enough, barely a month ago we had a talk about something similar in church during an induction training for Sunday school teachers. It was when the Prime Minister of Luxembourg married his gay partner and we were musing on all the absurd trends that this generation is coming against. What's wrong is wrong, we don't have to accept it. Stealing is wrong, just as fornication. Christ said go and sin no more, not pass sin into law. The issue is safe guarding our children, from an early age making them know what's wrong and being involved in their lives. They are under our mentor ship for a reason. I'm scared of what they'll be watching now because most of the cartoons and channels we watch are American and the script-writers of such programmes are gay (as shown by statistics). Now all he'll will be set loose on the TV, as they will want to promote their new found freedom. Unfortunately there aren't enough Christian/ inspiration programmes out there to offset or even counter balance this impending assault on young minds. Now more than ever, parents need a strategy for what is going to be an onslaught on our belief system. May God's grace give us wisdom to know what to do.

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  8. Teach your child the way to go and when he/she grows up ..he will not depart from the truth! please teach your children the way of the Lord.I will tell you a lot of people here in the US are hypocrites n d fact that they do not care about their neighbors made them say "its your life do whatever with it"!!! N the truth is its the end time and every one is doing what is right in their own eyes.As for me I will teach my child right and stand against any work of the devil in my family because the TRUTH it is sure demonic and the work of the devil...but people explain it away this days....

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  9. Teach your child in the way that he or she will have confidence in you (PARENTS).

    God bless Nigeria.

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  10. hmmmmm........my people in the western part of Nigeria always say "o so si ni l'enu o b'uyo si iso re ko see ponla iyo si re ko see tu danu".A very difficult situation where everybody is claiming one right or the order.We human being, we started missing it the moment we dump the holy books(bible for the christians and qur'an for the muslims).These books are guide from our creator who knows us better than we know ourselves.We are now following the instinct of some group of people who have turn their backs to their creator and embrace the teachings of the accursed one,who had promised to mislead us right from the time of the first man on earth(Adam).Well as an individual I choose to train my child/children with the words of God and pray to this same God that he should be their guide and make them to follow HIS ways.It is better we make our children to know that what is wrong is wrong no matter how good the power that be in the society may make it look.......because most of those at the helms of affairs in most part of the world have sold their conscience/souls to the devil.I pray this evil legislation will not find it's way into our way of life in Nigeria.Thanks Mr/Mrs.TNV...gOD Bless you

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